Sharing my experience of going from having a three year old and working to having surprise twin girls and becoming a stay at home mom.
My Facebook page is not public. I’ve learned from advising college students, you need to separate your personal life from your professional. I’m still working on the idea of creating a separate Facebook page for my blog. Until then, I wanted to share this recent post I made last Friday that got a lot of positive support.
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Ladies, I know myself. I know I could clean, fold laundry, and organize all day. But after being a stay-at-home mom for 14 months and in the middle of training my twin daughters to nap in the afternoon, I learned fast that I had to train myself to break too. That is why from now on when 3pm hits I will no longer fold laundry, clean or cook.
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In the world of mothers, there is much talk about how women can do it all. We talk about how we try to be there for our children, our husbands, and our co-workers, all while trying to stay healthy and happy. On this father’s day, I want to share how my husband, Matthias Worch is an great example of how men are doing it all too.
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My fellow parents of multiples club members and I are in the final stretch of planning our huge Family Garage Sale Fundraiser. It’s this Saturday, June 7! These last few months have been keeping me busy. Between volunteering, co-chairing the garage sale, raising our twin girls, blogging, some days, I forget I’m not “working”. When I share with others about what I’m doing, I often hear, “Are you crazy? Where do you have the time, you have twins?
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20 days left!!!
Okay people, there are only 20 days left until the sale. I don’t know about you but I’ve been procrastinating… I have my tags and tagging gun (thanks Brandi!). I’ve read Josette’s tagging tips from the newsletter. I’ve watched the tagging tips YouTube video. Hangers are purchased. Have I tagged yet? No. Will I tag in the next 18 days, yes! Even if you haven’t started yet there is still time to prep your items to sell.
I felt Heaven today. You might be asking? When? How? Where? I have to tell you. It was the moments when I simply focused on what was in front of me and didn’t give another thought. I literally just focused on what I saw and didn’t let my mind wander.
I gave the twins their bath and let the feelings of “another thing I’m doing” go and just like that, I was in Heaven.
When I was unloading the dishwasher, the feelings of “is this all there is“, gone, and just like that I was in Heaven.
When I realized that I had stopped worrying about my future and was focused on brushing my teeth. Heaven.
I read this great post about the Ego side of our brain called “Protect your ‘Now’-Don’t Get Mind-Jacked” from Reflections of a Healing Mind.
There is your Ego and there is your Now. I thought the Ego was what kept you going. I thought it was the part of the brain that reminded you of who you are and not to forget that. I thought your Ego was the one to remind you of where you’ve come, what you are capable of, and to not let anyone hold you back. And then I realized that Ego will hold you back, because following your Ego will never bring you the happiness or the peace you really long for.
I can see the Now is Heaven. The Now is what you have created. It is the results of all your hard work. The Now is your life. The one filled with love, kindness, gratitude, family, friends, and beauty. The Now is nothing more or nothing less. The Now is the hard stuff that you are doing and not even realizing it. The Now is the easy stuff that you don’t even realize is awesome to have.
And just like that, today, I chose to focus on the Now, as much as I wanted to focus on Me, Myself, and my Ego. I was surprised that the Now offered me so much more and felt like Heaven.
Try it. What do you feel when you stop and think about what you are doing right now? When you see what you are doing right now and you realize, you don’t have to feel anything. You don’t have to judge yourself, or be proud of yourself. You can just be here. The rest of life will take care of itself because you will feel the energy to move on to the next task that is needed.
Trust yourself. There is no need to plan something else, while you are doing something else. Try planning as an actual task that involves sitting down with a calendar, or note book. If you need to do something for someone, make time to work on it and let that thought go. If you are worried about how someone will react, deal with the reaction when it comes. Otherwise, aim to focus on what is in front of you. You are no less of a person for not worrying.
Everyone deserves to feel Heaven. Let yourself too.
No need to think about it. Just turn your mind to what you are doing right now and allow it to happen. Feel Heaven.
As you head into the weekend, I hope this post inspires to cook something with your child or hand over the cleaning to your partner. It is all about the meaning behind the apron and how as women of 2014, we can
take it back and be proud.
5 1/2 ways I’m taking back the Apron!
Lately, I’ve been having this tango with my apron. Every time I put on said apron to bake, cook dinner or clean up the kitchen, I have this dance with myself: “Here I go, playing the role of ‘barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen’.” Then my mind shifts to “Wow, I really love cooking and baking with my son.” So, what is happening? When did I start to feel so conflicted about putting on an apron?
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The more you think about, the more you realize that each day, you’re walking your own Camino.
My husband and I use the term “camino” as shorthand for the The Camino de Santiago (the Way of St. James), a pilgrimage across northern Spain that many have walked for centuries. Some day we will walk it. Until then, we try to see that each day is another day on our figurative camino. Some moments are harder than others, but we keep walking.
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My First year of Twin Motherhood.
Currently, 9 months into my year off as a stay at home mom with twin girls, 3 months to go.
If I was hiking the Pacific Crest Trail I’d have entered the last 10 miles in CA and would be in Oregon by nightfall. 3 months left to go. If you have had the chance to read Cheryl Strayed’s memoir “Wild – From Lost to Found on the Pacific Crest Trail”, you would remember that when she made it to Oregon, she still had a long way to go to the top of Oregon, but it felt like a major millstone. She knew she was close. Very close. This morning, I feel close, yet I know there is still time and much more to see. Yet, the planning mode kicks in.
TESTKeep leaning, keep refocusing, then sit up straight and enjoy.
2013 brought the Lean In movement into my life. Since it started in March, I’ve had many conversations about this idea of leaning in. Some have been about how Lean In is a great motivator. I started blogging about how the Lean In movement is not only about careers but could also be about motherhood. I’ve also said that the Lean In movement might simply be the idea that now we, especially women, need to lean in more because we are still not doing enough in our careers.
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